What can you say.......?

I just learned that a very dear friend lost her baby girl, an amazing phenomenal 21 year old young lady. What can I say? There is not a single thing in the world I can do to ease her pain. Not a thing. Flowers are pointless, they die too. A card seems just inadequate. She lives an hour away, so it's not like I can pop in with a hot casserole..... Saying "She's in a better place" is true, but NOT what is going to make this amazing, grieving mom feel any less grief.

So what can I do? I pray. I have been. From the minute I heard what happened. I learned it was not instant. I learned that she fought hard, but God called her home. How do I comfort her mother? The woman who saw her first breath, calmed her when she cried, watched every moment of her life. How do I, who have never held my own child, comfort a friend who is loosing her heart and her mind and maybe even her soul? Is it possible to even do anything but let her know I'm here for her if she needs me?

I can not imagine her pain, her suffering. I can not fathom what it would be like to have a child die. So how can I possibly offer her comfort? I feel like such a horrible friend because I haven't even called her. I think I'll wait a day or two, I'm sure today will be such a blur to her.

I'm going to add her to my Church's prayer list. I think only God can give her comfort at this point. I'll pray that he gives me tools to help her get through this in any way I can.

Bless you, Brenda. And may God keep Beth secure in his arms forever, RIP sweet girl.